Brandy Kyzer

I remember being fascinated with a lady that ran my daycare. I was young, probably 5 or 6, but I do remember being caught up with how beautiful she looked. I was extra aware of my sexuality when I turned 12. Guys and girls were both way more interesting, but girls excited me in a way guys never did.

I grew up super conservative with the belief that being LGBTQ+ was a sin and it would send me to hell. I was always the good girl and good Christian—I didn't feel like I could tell anyone my secret.

It's been a heck of a journey to get to a place of accepting self and being 100% affirming, especially as a missionary and pastor in the evangelical world. I no longer believe my sexuality is bad or wrong. I don't believe it separates me from God either.

Honestly, my relationship with God was the most instrumental [in my journey towards affirmation]. Things no longer made sense, and the more questions I asked, the more I recognized God leading me to the answers. I also nerded out when it came to books, YouTube, podcasts, and even met with dozens of gay Christians. Another huge component was my therapist!

My life no longer has the stamp of shame over it. I'm free and happily engaged to a woman. It's not the easiest being from Alabama, but I have a deep peace with God that nobody can take from me. I'm now a life coach that helps others bridge the gap between sexuality and faith.